I sold 23 of my trees when my wife died in 2007 due to my not being able to devote enough care as a single guy along with the extra work that I had to do by myself suddenly.
I kept 3 that were not "care intense" and had some either sentimental or special startout.
3 is manageable by almost anyone.
In 2012, I met a lady who was married same year was, lost her husband same year I lost my wife, was in ALMOST the same business, and we have been together since.
She accompanies me to bonsai shows and enjoys watching (and learning) as I care for my (now 7 tree forest) of bonsai.
She expressed interest in having them if I kick the bucket (or pot) prior to her.
I have left her written instruction and addendum to my trust that SHE is to get them if she wants at that time.
She is more important than my trees but I also care for the trees.
She WILL keep them. She KNOWS when and how to do what with them for the most part. None require a LOT of maintenance.
I've been extremely fortunate to have had two superb women in my life and also to have experienced the wonder of making itty bitty trees conform to life in containers.
Damn lucky here, boss.