As in the pine with a male cone and a female cone that are pollinated by the wind?
With conifers this is different, because they do not have flowers, they’re gymnosperms (=naked seed, no protection from ovary or fruit).
To my knowledge there are no cones that are hermaphroditic, they are either male (usually smaller) or female -so, even if two cones are on the same tree (same parent), this is not the same as a single flower with both sexes present (pistol and stamen aka a “complete or “perfect flower).
Here’s the caveat, for a flower to truely ‘self’, male gametes (pollen) should come from the exact same flower as the female gametes (ovules in base of pistol)....such fertilization will increase the likelihood of “true breeding”.....however, if pollen from a different flower or cone on the same plant reaches ovules from a different flower/cone (same plant) the potential for “true breeding” is definitely still there....
...what I’m getting at super technically is that not all flowers or cones from the same plant will have the same genetic makeup/alleles/traits/morphology/etc...so I believe a true ‘selfing’ single flower has homologous genes and therefore an increased likelihood of being the truest natural offspring of the parent plant..
That’s long winded technical shit, but to be clear terms-wise, I think any single flowering plant that can produce viable seed from only gametes from the same plant -even gametes from different flowers!...is still concitered to be a self-compatible species.
Further down the rabbit hole...this is not to say that conifers have less of a likelihood of seeds (produced from same tree-monoecious) that will mirror the parent plant exactly....because plants are messed up, they don’t always have two sets of chromosomes (ploidy; 2n) like us, they can have 16 to 64+..(or even odd #, see cloning cholo cactus in Joshua tree)..more/different/heterozygous possible genes mixed into the seed soup.....I believe this is why if you plant 100 apple seeds, it’s likely that all of the apples will be totally different (apples=family Roseaceae=always hermaphroditic flowers).