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Good morning Nutters! I have been pretty absent around here for a while now, and I have missed the place and the people... It's been a tough year so far, and I hope to be posting more again. The trees have been pretty much left to do their own tree thing this summer except for necessary interventions and needed work. I've been pretty glad that I have an automatic watering system that I do trust, so it's been easier to "ignore" them. Long story short, my Dad passed Aug 1, after a long bout with dementia. Hospice was there for us at the end, they are the most amazing resource and people imaginable. Lost one of my dogs in Feb. and the other just this past Tues. Now it's time to focus on Mom, who is 92... and deal with all the things that you have to deal with after Dads passing. I was very involved with taking care of Dad (93) while he was here, so it was a very busy last year or two. In a way, I never could have done so much without the virus shutting down my job, so in a strange way it was a blessing for me to be able to do that.
In any event, I have neglected this community, and hope that I'll be able to start posting regularly again as I get the time. I don't have any current pics to share, so I'll put one up of my shohin Tensei No Mai from this seasons bloom. Also one of my beautiful Beanie who just left us (my avatar girl) and me and the dog pile - old pic they were probably 5 or so, and they both lived to 15 ripe old years...

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Been hearing a lot of similar stories lately. Sorry it’s been an especially tough year (or more). Seems a few days ago there have been quite a few fake accounts created on here that are making the site hard to enjoy the last few days. I have put some on ignore but believe there are even more than I originally thought. It’s an interesting time haha
 
GGB said:
Been hearing a lot of similar stories lately. Sorry it’s been an especially tough year (or more). Seems a few days ago there have been quite a few fake accounts created on here that are making the site hard to enjoy the last few days. I have put some on ignore but believe there are even more than I originally thought. It’s an interesting time haha
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I heard that there were some not so nice things going on. That is sad to hear, but hopefully the positive people will keep the place going, that is why I wanted to post and come back, this place has been such a great resource and community. I hope that I can be part of the solution, as positive can combat that sort of thing better than anything else, it's about the trees!!!
 
Condolences on your losses. I lost both my parents and my mother in law in a three year period not long ago. Went through hospice with all three. It's not easy and wears you out. Bonsai offered some relief from things. Please keep posting!
 
JudyB said:
I heard that there were some not so nice things going on.
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A minor distraction... definitely not like what you've been dealing with.

Good to see you back. May you find some comfort in old friends and a familiar setting...
 
Hope thing will get better for you. We are at the age where most of the parents starting to slowly departing this world. There is more elegant way to say this but this is part of the life cycle for us human being. You have done all you can to take care your Dad. Glad that you're back.
 
rockm said:
Condolences on your losses. I lost both my parents and my mother in law in a three year period not long ago. Went through hospice with all three. It's not easy and wears you out. Bonsai offered some relief from things. Please keep posting!
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Thanks, and I will post as I get part of my life back... it's all consuming at times.
 
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A minor distraction... definitely not like what you've been dealing with.

Good to see you back. May you find some comfort in old friends and a familiar setting...
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Thanks Greg, I am glad to have a place like this to come back to.
 
Sorry for your losses.

I lost my father to lung cancer in March, he was in hospice as well. I lost my trees as I lost interest while helping my mother take care of my father.

I know how much hospice helps as my wife is a hospice nurse.
 
Deepest heart felt condolences...dealing with ailing parents is very difficult on ones heart strings and mentally draining. Dementia...additional heartstrings tugged. My uncle had that. Seeing how that effected my dad...broke my heart at the time. Going through the grief that comes from the loss of a parent...then losing your fur baby. (Two in one year.) Ugh...my heart aches for what you've faced. I've always seen you as a very strong woman...but grief knows no barriers. Will keep you lifted in my prayers...

I am glad...you can see the small blessings in being able to have the time for your dad when it was needed.

I'm not sure how your mom's handling her loss. But I remember being afraid my step mom was getting Dementia when my dad's health declined at the end. But it was only stress and she was overwhelmed. She is doing great now...so wanted to share that...with you still dealing with your momma.

(((Hugs and prayers)))
 
My dad died of a heart attack in November 2016, just two days before my 10th wedding anniversary. Then, the dog my wife and I adopted shortly after meeting each other in 2005 died suddenly from bloat in February 2017, just a couple weeks before both our birthdays.

I just recently joined the forums here, and I don't know you Judy, but I can certainly empathize with what you've gone through this year. I'll pray for you to have peace and healing as you grieve, as well as strength to help you care for your mom in the days ahead.
 
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