Yo! San Diego in the house!
(1) Welcome to the site!
(2) Have you tested your (guaranteed to be) crappy city water? Given the fact that your hibiscus is depending on your irrigation... it is sad what San Diego has to offer. Check your water quality report from your water utility - they are required to provide it via Cal law. Specifically, check the pH and see how high it is. 7 is neutral. Hibiscus like acidic water (less than 7). I would not be surprised if your water is 8.0 or 8.5. No bueno.
(3) The key to hibiscus is (a) sun (b) humidity (c) soft water. For what it's worth, they have weak roots and don't like to be messed with, but once established they can be quite strong in SoCal. The issue is going to be humidity and water. A hibiscus that is green and happy in full tropical sun in Hawaii is going to sulk, if not outright burn up, in SoCal desert winds. So I found (after 20 years of experimenting) that they do best in landscape where you can give them full sun, but protect them from any wind. Additionally, use acidic soil fertilizer - not so much because they require it, but because you need to counteract the impact of your alkaline water.
Loving the fact I see a lot of pumice. Consider mixing it with some rough cut peat moss. Yeah I know, you have been told to go 100% inorganic, but in SoCal peat will bring you acidity and humidity. If you are mostly pumice, your soil won't clog easily.