It's like the UK. People living there since pre-history. Then Romans came in and conquered most of it. Then Saxons conquered it after the Romans pulled out. Then Normans conquered the Saxons. Etc. So who does it belong to? Anyone?
It is next to impossible to judge the actions of a people in 1600 versus the actions of people today. We respond with shock and sadness to events today that would be considered normal for the times back then. And for what it's worth, the vast majority of people living in the US today did not have ancestors who lived here at the time of the Civil War - let alone in the 1600's.
I think I agree with your sentiment. Mankind has made progress in a lot of ways. War is uncommon compared to just a few centuries ago. We've already covered slavery. There are powerful nations (not just United States) who intervene against genocide. The average life expectancy has increased because of advances in technology and information.
I don't know exactly when my ancestors arrived here, and that's honestly not very important to me. But I know it was in the last half of the 19th century. We started on the east coast, and migrated to the middle of the country before 1900. My family had nothing to do with slavery in the US. Do I take pride in that? No. It's a simple fact, and a great talking point, but it has no bearing on my life. It doesn't affect who I am. Would I be proud or ashamed if my ancestors owned slaves, or had been slaves? Neither one, for the same reason. I don't brag that my great, great, etc grandfather developed a horse breed in Colorado especially for range riding and cattle working? Okay, maybe occasionally, cause I love horses. But I don't take credit or blame for things my ancestors did.
More recently, I
am proud that my grandfather was shot down by Japan in the Pacific fighting to rid the world of dangerous ideologies. That he came home, raised a family with the same woman and ran a farm for 60 years. He was born in a dirt floor shack. He started with nothing and eventually grew his humble farm into over 2,000 acres. His is a bootstrap story, and I'm proud to be a small part of his legacy.
I too, started out with nothing. (And I still have all of it.) But seriously, I'm not entitled to anything I haven't worked for. I don't ask anyone for handouts. I have received help, even from government assistance, but briefly, to get back on track. It's not a matter of pride, more a matter of duty and honor, and a love and appreciation for this country and her people.
I think there are two types of entitled attitudes.
1. "I come from money and I have stuff, so I deserve to be respected for what I inherited."
2. "I have nothing, so I'm entitled to what other people have."
One is no better than the other. Although I give respect at first meeting, one can lose or increase that respect instantaneously. No one is "entitled" to respect. I strongly believe that we are only entitled to those things that we earn.