I dont mind being told that my tree isnt good. Id rather have an honest answer than sugar coated bullshit. Id also like to know why its good or bad so that I can learn from it. However Im much more apt to listen if I am not being talked down to or belittled. Ill also have more respect for the person giving the advice if they dont talk down to me. I am an adult, treat me like one.
I don't disagree with that at all. I have found, for me anyway, to be at the the forefront of some of the escapades around here. If one really looks at the facts, they can't be disputed......but they are. Thats where things start to go wrong.
Someone posts a tree, I ask a question, someone totally unrelated from the discussion, doesn't like the way I ask the question and so makes a sarcastic remark about how I am condescending. A few friends or like minded people glam on. Next thing you know, the question never got answered and the OP has no idea what happened and the thread turns ugly.
Then to top it all off a week or two later people that have one or two posts over three years will say something like "this kind of behaviour is why I don't post here".
Those kind of comments should just be left to themselves. They then engage in the same behaviour they are trying to tell you they deplore.
I like your story about the guy who took the time to answer your questions and took time to offer advice. I have no idea about what you brought or how good or bad the material was/is. All I know is after about ten minutes conversing with someone in the know, there are a couple of important questions that can be asked right then and there and have every idea about the stock brought to the forefront.
Would "you" work on this piece of material and why
Would "you" have bought this material and why
Am "I" wasting my time with this piece of material.
The answers to those questions are very easy to answer on the internet. Not so much standing in front of some guy holding his tree in his hands looking you in the eye. If the guy giving advice is really as good as you think they are they will tell you the truth. If they don't, they will never be any use to you.