I have several cork oaks myself, and I live in your zone. Never killed one in the past 10 years.
My experience is that you should only defoliate fully lignified branches. Letting them grow in the spring and defoliating the still young and soft branches, easily leads to killing the branch.
Defoliate during the active growing season, which is the warmer part of spring and the whole summer. You can also defoliate during the heat of the summer, cork oaks like hot summers.
Until you are experienced with defoliation on your tree, partial defoliation is the safest and virtually risk-free: what I mean by this, is that you defoliate half of your tree at one time, and as soon as the new growth comes out, defoliate the other half. By doing this, you lessen the shock caused by total leaflessness.
This is very important: only defoliate tree with established roots. Never defoliate an freshly re-potted or root-pruned tree.
By the way, your plan in the initial post sounds good: defoliating mature foliage in early summer. But I would still do it in two stages, about 3 weeks apart.